Most of us consciously and unconsciously use weak languages at work. Although some of us consider it a decent way of responding, while others consider it as a way to avoid any confusion or issue that may after asking a question. We must understand that using weak language at work undermines our ability, experience, and self-confidence before others. People think that we are not sure of what we say or not confident with the outcomes. The result is a complete disruption of the impression that could have been made otherwise. The following are some ways we can avoid using weak language at work so that a good impression is created and steady growth of career can be achieved.
1. Stop saying "Sorry".
Many of us are used to saying "Sorry". For instance, Sorry, Can you repeat? Sorry, I can't understand you, etc. The result is the other person considers us inefficient enough to understand the main point. Therefore it is better to use other words than sorry. Instead of saying sorry again and again and displaying our weakness and over apologizing we should go ahead in taking charge of the situation. Saying sorry does not work when you are making a sincere apology. The solution to avoid weak languages includes the following.
- Don't say: Sorry, Can you repeat what you just said.
Say: Please elaborate on your viewpoint.
- Don't say: Sorry, but I have to let you stay.
Say: You will to stay and I can't help it.
- Don't say: Sorry, I am not clear with your viewpoint.
Say: This was not helpful.
2. Stop asking "Does that make sense?"
When you give a presentation or an idea before others, don't undermine yourself, your viewpoint, your ability to communicate and others' ability to understand by using words "Does that make sense?" Instead, you may ask "What do you think?", "What are your viewpoints?" etc. This way you allow others to share their understandings and viewpoint without undermining your own.
3. Stop saying "Just".
Some of us use the word "Just" in office. By saying "Just" we are limiting the outcomes and minimizing our efforts. This is how we make our hard efforts display so small that others can easily overlook it. Therefore instead of saying "Just", involve others in the conversation to gain their clarity and thoughts on your viewpoint. You can say, after my research work, or my evaluations reveals or even like my understanding states that. This will show that we have done a good deal of research and completed our homework.
4. Stop saying "I feel like".
Some of us become so frank and say that "I feel like". This shows that we are not sure what we are saying and it is just guesswork. Thus using words like "I feel like" actually invalidate your intelligence and experience. Therefore, instead of saying, "I feel like", say "I am confident", "My experience reveals", "As per research" etc. These words will reveal that what we are saying means a lot and is backed by a lot of research work, experience, knowledge, and information. People will start taking your words seriously and consider your views as vital.
This way we should stop using weak language at work which undermines our knowledge wealth, experience and ability to analyze the situation and give a decision. Use such words that show confidence over self and attract the trust of others in our decision-making abilities. Hence we can gain respect and even promotion to our dream posts.